A Wise Woman

November 13, 2012

Proverbs says a wise woman builds her house but a foolish one tears it down “with her own hands.” That’s a strong statement, but makes sense.  I’ve heard an old saying that if mom isn’t happy in the home, then no one is (well it was said with a bit more of a country accent using the word “ain’t.”)

We as women are wise if we build our house.  I’m pretty sure this isn’t talking about using hammers and nails.  We build our house by honoring our husband with our words, our looks, and our deeds. How quickly honor turns to hatred over time, when we begin to judge, deceive, and tear down.  Tearing down the father of our children is like taking a sledgehammer and hitting our home so hard the foundation cracks.

Words of honor, looks of love, and kind deeds really have nothing to do with rather or not our husband is “deserving” of those things.  Because our husband holds the place of walking beside us as one and fathering our children, just that position deserves honor. We can leave his reaction up to HIS father – God. And we can trust that God will discipline him – it’s not our job to do so.

Being a wise woman comes with first fearing the Lord, not being afraid of him, but revering him as being big enough to take care of all our needs.  When we really know this, we will build our house up…not tear it down.  And in fact, nothing can stand against us when we build our house on the rock!

Lord, please guard my tongue and heart from evil and teach me to bless, and not to curse.